30 Concrete and Practical tips for changing your life for the better w/some Spanish mixed in

Marc and Angel offer 30 concrete and practical tips for changing your life for the better.

Originally appeared at Marc and Angel Hack Life

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.     Stop spending time with the wrong people.– La vida es demasiado short to spend tiempo con personas que suck the happiness out of you. If someone te quiere en their life, que va a hacer room for you. You shouldn’t have to luchar for a spot. Never, ever insist ti mismo para someone who continuously overlooks su worth. And remember, it's not la gente that stand by su lado cuando usted're at your best, but the ones que están de pie beside you cuando estás en your worst that son sus true friends.

2.     Stop running from your problems.– Enfrentarlos de frente. No, it won’t be easy. There is no persona en el mundo capable of flawlessly handling cada golpe thrown at them. We aren't supposed to be able to instantly solve problemas. That’s not la forma en we’re made. In fact, estamos hechos to get upset, sad, hurt, tropezar y caer. Because that's todo el propósito of living – para hacer frente aproblems, learn, adapt, and resolverlos over the course of tiempo. This is what ultimately nos moldeainto the persona we become.

3.     Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.

4.     Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5.     Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest retos en la vida is being usted mismo in a world que está tratando de make you like todos los demás. Someone will always be prettier, someone va a always be smarter, someone siempre será younger, but they will never be you. Don’tcambian so people will like you. Be yourself and las personas adecuadas will love su verdadero yo.

6.     Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.     Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.     Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.– Es posible que love a la persona equivocada and cry about the wrong things, pero no importa cómo things go wrong, one thing es segura, mistakes nos ayudan a encontrar the person y las cosas that are right for nosotros. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret cosas in our past. But you are not tus errores, no eres tus struggles, and you are aquí ahora with el poder de moldear your day and tu futuro. Every single thing que le ha sucedido in your life is preparing you for un momento que is yet to come.

9.     Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10.   Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11.   Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12.   Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13.   Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14.   Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15.   Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.   Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17.   Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – de la vida curveballs are thrown por una razón - to shift la ruta de acceso in a direction que es para you. You may not ver ni understand todo lo que elmoment it happens, and it puede be tough. But reflexionar sobre those negative curveballs thrown at you en el pasado. You'll often see that eventually they llevó you to a better place, la persona, state de ánimo, or situación. So smile! Let everyone know that hoy you are mucho más fuertes than you were yesterday, and que será.

18.   Stop holding grudges. – No vivas your life with odio en your heart. You will end perjudicando a ti mismo more than the people que odias. Forgiveness is not saying, “What le hiciste a me está bien.” Itestá diciendo: "I'm not going to let what que me hiciste ruin my felicidad para siempre.” Forgiveness is the answer… dejar ir, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for los demás, it's for you también. If you must, perdonarse a sí mismo, seguir adelante y try to do better la próxima vez.

19.   Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.   Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21.   Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.   Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23.   Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.

24.   Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

25.   Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – Está bien fall apart por un rato. You don't always have to pretend ser fuerte, and there is no need to constantly prove que todo va well. You shouldn't be concerned with what otras personas están pensando either – llore if you need to – it's healthy to shedsus tears. The sooner you do, the sooner usted será able to smile de nuevo.

26.   Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.   Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.

28.   Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29.   Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30.   Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.